Finlay Roberts - Finny or FinnBear to us and many besides - died unexpectedly in July 2024. He was devastatingly beautiful, endlessly sweet, and desperately loved. We miss him hourly. This site contains a few photos of Finny that don't come close to capturing just how special he was. Please also find a link here to a fundraising page we set up to raise money for the 'Early Lives' charity at UCLH Neonatal Unit where Finny received wonderful care when he was little(er).
What on earth can one say except that my heart is aching in every part for you both. As a parent to an only child, it is without a doubt my worst nightmare. The fact that you have voiced so beautifully here and in other articles your grief, shows the true depths of your love for Finny.
What a momentous way of honouring his precious little life, by speaking with such rawness and honesty that it is at times painful to read (especially as a parent). My thoughts and prayers will be with you and you navigate your new normal.
I’ve heard is said - “grief is simply Love that has no place to go”.
But it is still…
I will be thinking of you three. I read your article, and was struck by how raw and vivid you write about your loss of Finny. It moved me to not only imagine, but also feel your pain.
I am so sorry for what happened.
I pray you keep your memories of Finny and your family life strong and vivid always.
I am fortunate to have never lost a child. I was touched in your article and by the comment that you long to talk of him. This is something I will bear in mind when talking to the bereaved.
You have had the opportunity to talk of him, to honour him and to share the joy he brought you in his short life.
Your life will always contain the sadness of his death, but also the joy of his life.
I wish you all the best for the future , with or without other children.
I feel your pain I lost my son Jan f11 loosing a child is unbearable only another parent who has lost will know the feeling of heartache 💔 my first Christmas without my beloved son love and strength x
I am so sorry for your loss.
But I am glad to contribute in Finny’s honor & that you & Lizzi had the absolute joy in your life of experiencing your extraordinary son. I hope you can find a way to channel your energy into another child’s life.. there are so many all over the world that don’t have parents- or food etc. They need you. Thank you for sharing your story in the very heart wrenching article in The Guardian.